So this weekend I got dumped by my ex b/f because I wouldn’t drive him home because I had a drink with dinner. He told me that because I always have him take a cab (even though I offer to pay and pay for dinner and everything else) when I have drinks, that he doesn’t want to be with me. Unfortunately I am completely opposed to drinking and driving which is why I am much happier without him. The reason I thought of You F*cked Up My Life by Elaine Brier who is one of the top cabaret singers in NYC is because if I would have stayed with him he probably would have f*cked up my life.
The funny thing is that he did it by text and when he was like it’s over, but we should talk and see where it goes I wrote back and said I don’t think that would be a smart thing. I would normally post the texts here, but he’s actually a really nice guy, we just have a lot of differences in opinion so I’m going to keep it all on my phone and not post it. I do feel bad though that he doesn’t get why I wouldn’t drive him home and instead is fixating on him not getting his way. It’s kind of sad that he hasn’t realized that when you get to a certain point in life you have to grow up and realize that things like drinking and driving aren’t safe or good. I know he knows better, but at the same time he is more focused on things that don’t matter and being spoiled, kind of like he was looking for someone to take care of him instead of a b/f, that he hasn’t realized he’s in his 30′s and needs to start actually focusing on his life.
When you get to a certain point in life you need to stop having roommates, think about retirement and grow up. Unfortunately I don’t think he is at that point in his life and because of that he isn’t a good fit for me. He’s an awesome person but we are definitely not a fit for each other and if I would have stayed with him it would have probably been a bad thing. That’s why I thought of the song You F*cked Up My Life by Elain Brier. Although he didn’t f*ck up my life and he was a really nice person, if I stayed with him it could have been bad for me which is why I’m happy we’re not together anymore.
After you go to a show and have dinner in NYC, the only place to go if you want to sing a long for a while longer is Don’t Tell Mama. Don’t Tell Mama is a sing a long piano bar with a ton of fun cabaret performers and talented singers like Elaine Brier. When I was there a couple weeks ago Elaine was working and ended up performing as well.
She performed a ton of her new songs from her album Jique De Soleil (pronounced Jerk De Soley like Cirque de Soleil) including You F*cked Up My Life as well as other songs like the Deli Song that everyone loves. Not only does she get the audience going, but she gets everyone to sing a long and sway and have an amazing time. That is what I love about her random performances and her cabaret acts. She is fun to watch, fun to listen to, extremely fun to sing a long with and best of all she encourages you to do it all. Some cabaret artists in NYC get pissed off when you join in or sing a long. Not only can that be a huge turn off for your audience, but it takes down the level of fun that the audience has and removes part of what makes cabaret, cabaret.
I don’t mind if the performer wants quiet for a few songs and when they are telling stories, but during the show or at the end they need to have some sort of audience participation. Performers like Matt Yee and Elaine Brier are experts at having the right mix of sing a long vs. listening and that is one of the things that makes their cabaret shows so much fun and their performances more memorable. One of the other things I recommend when you go to these shows is to buy the cds they have for sale.
Not only do the cds let you remember the show when you get home, but they help to give the performers extra money but more importantly, extra exposure to new potential fans. They push them a bit during the show, but you have to remember they don’t always get paid much if they even get paid for performing at all. Some only get the money from their cd sales and others only get the tips they get while performing or have to split them with the piano player. They work extremely hard to help give you an awesome show and buying their cds is one of the ways you can say thank you. Here is Elaine Brier performing live at Don’t Tell Mama.